Quote: The only thing nagging at me HH, is that it seems like you feel she has always just been looking for a reason to divorce you. As if her heart was never in it in the first place. This can be a problem.
This part of your original post (although I've used Amy's words here) really struck me. In fact the whole of your post really hit home - you could have been my H writing about me. I constantly threatened my H that I was leaving; but I never meant it. I wanted my H to 'see' me. I often felt invisible in my marriage. My threat to leave were the only times I really had his attention. Maybe your wife's threats to leave are a sympton of something you need to work on or it may be an issue she needs to deal with.
And here is where I also want to apologize if my first post came off as too harsh. It wasnt intended as an attack. It was perhaps intended to protect your wife or rather a spouse who has been betrayed and wasnt here to defend herself.
Anyways, have you made some goals for yourself. What are the areas you are working on?
