From my thread...and please, I just want to reply on yours, I don't mind your posts there.
Quote: I just want her to be understanding,and be considerate of the hell that i have just been through.
Ok, from your last post, I got that she WAS being considerate of what you've been through. Are YOU being considerate, or even acknowledging what SHE's been through. You think this was easy for her? A walk in the park?
I am NOT defending the actions of a cheater, but for you to have her back in your life, you have to learn to define her as something more than that, and that starts with understanding HER pain through all this.
Quote: I feel exactly the same way most times these days.To much to soon.I feel like it was to easy for her(if that makes sense)Here she got to go off and have this A and party hearty for 6 months while i was sitting around crying and feeling sorry for myself and she just gets to walk back into my life whenever she felt like it!##
Have you ASKED her if it was "easy" for her? I suspect if you did she would probably cry a bit and then tell you how HARD it was, even if she was enjoying some time with OM, she was going through HELL at the same time. Was it worse for you? HELL YES, because no matter how bad it was for her, at least she had OM to lean on. I hope you now understand that for the false comfort it was. She never did learn to be happy on her own.
Quote: Sorry for that..those are just thoughts i think we may all have some time.Just venting a little.
Yes, we do, and it's perfectly ok. Vent away my friend!
Quote: Whenever i get like that and ask my W something..Yes she gets angry and defensive some times,but no matter what she tells me about what i asked..good or bad..it makes me feel better.I think the fact that they are willing to give information or tell you something about the A gives you reassurance that it is over.Hell i dont know..it just makes me feel better..that is until a day or two later when i think of something else.
I get that you want her to make you feel better. That is different than wanting her to give you reassurance that the A is over. You should be able to make yourself feel better, especially since what is making you feel bad is likely a construct of your own psyche.
Deejay, once again, I want to say that I am being hard on you because I FULLY understand what you are feeling and feel a lot of the same things. I am as much being hard on me as you.
Please, start to see more positive than negative. I think you already have, but do MORE!
