Good morning to the best group of cyber friends anyone could have. You hear so much about internet relationships these days. The wonderful bond we have all developed on these messageboards must be the very best kind of internet relationship. Thank you Michele for providing this forum.

Since I decided to let go of the negative feelings I was going through I feel so much better. I am much more relaxed which allows me to enjoy not only my relationship with my H but everything else too. We seem to be making baby steps everyday and I am beginning to feel really safe again and that feels sooo good after the rollercoaster ride.

We actually ran into the OW one evening last week. My H and I had gone to one of the places he used to work at with the OW. This is a large facility and neither of us was sure we would see her. In fact my H tried hard not to run into her. We said hello to many of his co-workers whom he misses. They all wanted to know how his health was and if he was coming back. My H told them he probably will not be back. He worked with these people for over 10 years and many are good people and good friends. We had been there for a while and were on our way out to come home when we saw her walking with another employee towards us. I asked him if he wanted to go in a different direction and he said no. We had to walk past each other and they both stared straight ahead and did not look at each other. I looked and saw that her eyes were red. I think she had heard that we were there from others and had been crying. As I said we were on our way out and just kept going. I paid close attention for the next couple of days because I wanted to see if this near encounter had an effect on my H. Somehow we managed to not let it affect us. I needed a little extra reassurance and he gave it to me.

I don't want to leave this place and will stay around for a while if thats OK with the rest of you. I want to watch as each one of you finds happiness again too. I want to celebrate with you with that time comes for you.

I was bouncing around the threads here in the last couple of days and David said something that really hit home with me. He said time and patience are the two things DBers must focus on. He is so right.