Well, Going on 2 weeks being home,and things have been going a little to GREAT,so i thought i would try and screw it up last night!!I think i may be getting in to the anger and resentment stage here,and i just had to bring up a few things that have been on my mind.I continue to have a few bad thoughts here and there,but everything has been going so well i have not talked about any of my feelings.One of the things she keeps saying is that she came back(YES she wanted to)but she wants to forget the last 6 months and never talk about it again.Should i be ok with this?I believe her when she tells me things,and she says and i believe her when she tells me she has made a commitment to me,but i just think now i want her to fight for me and do things to reassure me and be sensitive to what happened. A little about this.....Her boss at work has a paralyzed sister who's nephew lives with her,and its when she started going over there for ladies night that the A started...She continues to say that has been over for a long time but she was still going there because she was friends with the Sis(which is true). Granted she did agree that she would no longer talk to the sister or go there ever again before i could could even think about getting back together,and she was ok with that,but i still feel something about her Job that i just dont like and that it was her Boss' nephew that she got involved with.At one time i told her if we were to get back together she would have to quit her job,but i backed off of it.I asked her if she thought she could still be friends with someone after that(meaning op)and told her that if she felt that way i could not be her husband.She totally agrees with no contact for life,but the fact that her boss is related stills bugs me and just think that that will continue to be a constant reminder of what happened.Should i feel bad for asking her to quit her job???She really loves her job,and its the only real job she has ever had,but in my opinion a job should not stand in the way of a happy marriage..The other thing she did not want to do is change our phone number.. It seems she is just trying to get things back to normal and not ever deal with anything,and forget the whole thing. And again,she is being sincere about US!!We are doing GREAT...She cant get enough of me and i feel the same way.. Our intimacy has gone through the roof!!We sit and hold each other watching tv,kissing,hugging,talking..everything we never did,and we both love it..... Should i let these things continue to nag me???
