It just keeps getting better!!
Wife told me crying tonight that she wanted me to come home!We are going this weekend to get all of my things from my mothers.We had a great talk and put alot of things to rest that have happened..and i am feeling very good that everything is All good.
I think this past week we have talked more( NO R TALK!!)just talking as friends for hours on end than we did in our whole 12 years of marriage,and also there has been so much more intimacy...not just to have sex..but just touching each other,hugs,kisses..the past 3 or 4 nights there has not been any sexual encounters,but we have held each other and talked for hours.I just really cant believe how quickly things have turned around and i am exstatic!I am going to take her away for the weekend next week,and maybe exchange our rings back...i dont think in 12 years we ever got away for a weekend alone!!
There are so many things you realize when something like this happens...dont get me wrong..this was the worse feelings and darkest time of my entire life,and alot of bad things have happened,but i would not change 1 minute of the pain and hurt i went through.For one we are going to end up better than ever,and i know that my wife loves me and wants me and only me,and i feel the same way.If people would just come here before their marriages get to this point we may have less divorce in this country.
For everyone out there the one thing i started finally doing towards the end of my sitch,and you will hear it alot around here from GH and many more is VALIDATION!!!!!!!
Yes I know i was a Bad husband!
Yes i know i took you for granted!
Yes i know i neglected my Family!
You get the point..That was just me..i dont know your personal feelings or problems,but VALIDATE!
And another thing you must be able to do if your S comes back is anything that has happened(You may need to talk and deal with some things)but once you do LET IT GO!!
Anything anyone would like me to add or any comments are very welcome...I just feel so great about where we are,and have learned so much about relationships and people and Women and Men that i never would have learned had this not happened and i am just grateful that i can see our happy ending,and hope that everyone who comes here can find theirs.
DeeJay