Now what is this about your H being fixed & y'all gotta be fixed? You have traveled the journey of 1000 DBing miles AND your H followed; he will eventually catch up, just remember you had a head start .
This is wonderful that you're continuing to see your SBT to proactively deal with the suppressed feelings. Y'know, I like how the SBT presented the tumor example; you can use the information to your advantage -- how would you act if the OW had been a tumor that had been removed from your H (okay, okay, so the OW was a tumor that was removed, via DB-style surgery...LOL ):
quote:...Well if it had been me I would have taken away several things, like make everyday with your family count, and never give up just because one person tells you something can't be done...
I do believe your analytical mind answered THE question already JW .
You have worked extremely hard towards your goal during the past few months. Now that you have achieved the goal of reconciliation perhaps it is time to refocus on another challenge. Your H has already given you a clue of what that is -- not try to make him into someone he's not. Hmmm, is it time to exchange DB for WGtCHM (I don't recall the updated title).
JW, you are an absolutely amazing woman. As GG indicated, you have the cake. Please refocus on the basics of DBing -- glass is 1/2 full, can't fix the past, you aren't able to control another but you are able to control yourself (thoughts) etc... Sheesh, what am I telling you that you don't already know?
BTW, I'm still waiting for a post from you that says 'Hey, I'm going to Disneyland!' when another DBer asks what are you gonna do now that you've turned your emotional roller coaster ride ticket in. Hmmm, there's a thought, screaming on a real roller coaster is a great way to relieve stress. What do you think? You & your H up for a trip to see the Mouse?
As always, Best Wishes to you & your family JW!
[This message has been edited by pondering (edited 02-09-2000).]
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