JW,
Your post really hit home for me. My H and I aren't living together yet, but only another 20 days. But what really hit home is that I also have a very analytical mind---I over analyze things-- to a fault at times. My H is very impulsive, lives in the moment. While we can be very complimentary to each other, we can also drive each other insane. And while I am getting better on focusing on the positives, it is so hard to ignore the negatives--- like taking the OW to her father's and having dinner there instead of coming over here.
So how do we tone down the analysis? or at least keep it focused on the positives? My H is also the one time said, you should know type. I don't want to be the one who is putting the all into the marriage! Though he doesn't see it that way... he sees that he has given up a lot to come back home (including an OW who would be more than happy to be his maid and doting servant--- unless of course she needs him to chaufer her all over town).
I don't want all the anger and frustration destroy everything that I have DBed my heart out to get. How do we stop that from happening?