Anyway in summary we have just had another session of therapy and our councillor has got down to solution orientated type seesions.
Basically we all understand how we got to where we are right now (me W and theripist) and now all want to move on.
I won't go into the details but in a nutshell it is time to start verbally expressing my needs and time for my W to start apprieciating me and accepting me when I do this.
Yesterday was my W's birthday and by the end of the day my W had made several apprieciative and loving comments.
She asked if she could have more frequent birthday's and I replied that I would try to make her feel like every day was her birthday.
The day went really well and I felt good about all the things that I had done for her and how well it was recieved. She said that maybe I had touched on the true meaning of birthday's ... to allow you to spend a full day or day's apprieciating someone special.
She fell asleep last night as I gently stroked her head as she lay on my chest.
Each day becomes easier and less ackward, each day I gain confidence. Each day I feel my W coming slowly closer..
I have changed my view on this rebuilding process as a finite trip, instead I believe what is more important is the journey together.
