Remember that other letter that I said wouldn't fly, well I think this one WILL. Great job!
The only question I have is one of timing. Do you think she is ready to hear what you are saying? If she is not yet ready, the impact of your words will be lost, and she could even see this as just another of your ploys. You need to decide if now or waiting a few weeks will best help your cause.
This is the question. I am scheduled to leave in 4 days and she has stated that will be a welcomed time away and she will see if she misses me. Could be seen as a ploy.
She has a GF date tonight, cause of a fight 5 weeks ago. Could be seen as a ploy.
But then the flip side is, why am I basing my decision on her possible reaction? I cannot control that and there may never be the ultimate time. She will see it as she wants to see it. If it is something I feel I need to get off my chest and have explained than by allowing my decision to determined by her possible reaction am I not being untrue to myself?
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
I don’t think the issue is you. The issue is getting the communication through, nothing more. If she is still in the “red zone” the message is dead on arrival. Let’s take an extreme example. Say you get in a fight with her and then in anger hand her the letter. Do you think it will have any impact at all, if she even takes the time to read it? So the next time you type up a letter, maybe in a month or so, how much impact will it have?
I think the one who is ready to give the letter is you, but you need to be sure she is ready to receive it. That was my only point, to get as much bang for your buck. Remember, patience works in YOUR favor, not hers.
I did the same; wrote a 'baring my soul' letter to my H. It was actually when he said he wanted a D. He came over so that we could start dividing things up and found the letter inside a portfolio at my desk. It was very odd actually because I had not decided when to give it to him.
It was the timing and really hit home with him. Which is why he came back.
When he started going 'aloof' on me again. He saw the letter again. (It was sitting on the kitchen table.) This time he began picking it apart.
My point (yes, there is one) is that timing is EVERYTHING. Just like Cobra said... you don't want her to be in a 'red'zone when she reads it... it'll bounce right off!
F4: It is a great letter. However, I do not believe it should be given. Talk is talk. Actions are the truth. You need to re-read this letter every day and every time you are hesitant or down about you and the R. If you execute what is in this letter you will be fine and, my guesss, is that W will choose to re-enter your life.
Your letter has netted numerous posts here to what we each need to focus on to be an adult in a relationship.
Good luck and God bless.
Oh, and our good times starts and end
Without dollar one to spend.
But how much, baby, do we really need
Well folks I leave tomorrow for a 5 day business trip. This is the time she states she will be able to see if she misses me. I believe the letter and newsletter will make it to her office in a flower arrangement (courtesy of GEL). No sappy stuff, no pleading.
We had lunch today and it was very nice. Very relaxed and I even got a GB kiss.
I will not have Internet so I will be cut off from the second family.
Arrrrrgh, BB withdrawl LOL!
Have a great holiday weekend y'all!
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
