F4W,

Now...out of all the letters to a spouse I've seen on here, this is one I absolutely believe you should give her.

There is no blaming her for anything in here....there is no finger pointing, and you are not only taking responsibility for your contributions to the state of your M....but you are letting her know that you are looking within yourself (not her) to make changes for the better.

IMHO - give this to her (with some flowers).

GEL


Well behaved women rarely ever make history!