To the contrary of pursuit, any detachment I give or space I give is deemed moppy and sulking. If I opt to take kids out without her...sulking and trying to prove a point. If I choose to sit and watch TV...sulking and moppy If I choose to check emails from work on computer in basement...pouting and moppy.
So what? Why do you need to worry about her mood? That’s her business. Let her sulk all she wants. This is how I see it – through sulking she might get the message that D is not the answer and she might not like it. She needs to understand and feel this. She is doing this on her own by sulking and getting depressed. So why do you want to rescue her from this process of self discovery, only to turn around and implement some power play to get the very same message across?
Sometimes the best road to your objective is not always the one you want, it is not always the one that will make YOU look good. Let her have some credit for coming to her own realizations and stop trying to be the hero. She has shown you repeatedly she does not you to be the one fixing her. You think you do this out of loyalty, love, dedication, concern to her. But she sees is as an attempt to get al the glory and have her beholding to you. In that way I think she has a REAL point. Isn’t that what she is saying by not wanting you to one up her on something as small as cleaning the kitchen?
