I am not going through son. This information he shared by his free will. I fully understand the need to sheild him and my other 2 sons form all of this.
Speculation it may be, but it is intriguing form where she is operating. I am operating form the only position I can, myself. In the future, if she decides t stay and move forward, to actually work form a basis not steeped in resentment than I might be more inclined to delve into her issues when she shares.
Yes she has come out and said this. I only state this as my POV to truy detach may not achieve the same results as others have seen. When I do these things or when I am home. I truly try to be happy and upbeat. And most of the time I am. I am moving in direction where I am not fixating on things and issues in my Marriage at home. Trying to be a better dad and repair relationships with my kids an be there for them. I am unable to help my wife or fix her issues. I do not know what they are. As we all agree upon it took two to get here. But until she can get to a point where she wants to really look at what WE are doing, it is mute.
To her she is skeptical, and not unjustified. Until she can trust me and work from that stance, she will always see my actions as false. I am unable to change that by any other means than consistancy.
I believe until she is ready to join me in taking the leap of faith, she will always view my actions as manipulative and false.
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
