F4W I agree with Cupcake. You have stepped beyond SSM and are now dealing with a WAW. The problem here is that you cannot commit to a M that does not exist! My point is that you need to accept that if she chooses to walk, then you have no power or control. Giving in and saying that you will do it her way does not mean she will come back. Most importantly, if you cave on all your convictions, they your W will have no respect for you. Consequently, your M would be doomed any way.
I agree with your statement that you should “stop playing and get back to working and reality”. That is exactly what you should do. Focus on yourself and strive to be the best individual that you can. However, you need to stop “giving of yourself” to your W because she does not want that from you right now. In fact, by giving of yourself, you are actually driving her farther away. My advice, treat her like a roommate and nothing more right now. Give her space! If she comes back to you and wants to change that status back to a M, then and ONLY then do you talk about mutual expectations. To summarize, F4W, you have to be the alpha male here right now. Be strong, demonstrate that you can be your own man, and leave your W alone until she decides where her priorities lie.
Hope this helps.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
