No I did not file nor did I make the statement that I would. My wife is the one who made that statement (again for the ....who cares time) The only statement I have given my wife about D was 4 weeks ago that she needed to pursue what she needed to do. That I do not ask for D and am not in favor of D, but will not fight D if she chose. I have repeated that again after the last statement. She since is acting differently and made the statement that it will all be fine. She also alluded to several other things in her life (work, or M, family) that have killed emotion in her. This was prior to the fine statement.
So again to frame the question in my mind, do I follow from the leap of faith stand point and take her statemenet about it being fine as truth and move on?
I agree with the remainder of you post except for the manipulation portion of this. In the events of 2 weeks ago, I stated to my wife that I believe that shock and realization put me in a position to objectively see my actions and the some of them as being untrue to my words. Her actions in that case caused me to be placed in the crucible. Again, I am not seeking divorce, yet, and may not for a while. I fall back to the statement I have stated to my Wife, there will come a time I will not be able to move along further in a marriage devoid of initmacy, affection and sex. I have not changed from the belief. I am not at that decision making time. She on the other hand may be. I do not know.
As to differentiation of emotions. I agree. But in trying to do so, the mental understanding of what physical reactions are are ocurring helps me to be better to control them.
There is no game afoot. I believe that I am still searching for balance and she is trying to search for a reasons.
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
