Ok I am seeing this. I agree with this. And mostly this enmeshment on my part has stemmed from my fear of abandonment and her betrayal and my internalizing that betrayal and trying to take sole owenrship of it. In doing so I am now trying to be the hero and fix it all.
Where I should be is allowing her freedom as a person (she has stated this before) and my issue with that comes back to Cobra's leap of faith and am I willing to risk losing my wife and not dwell in that what happened and what could happen scenarios.
So is it than taboo to seek the connection on a different level where empathy and caring are shown. Or is that a sign of differentiation?
I would give up anything for GREAT SEX!
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
