Ok, finished Pity pie and a thought popped into my head. It has to do with Cobra's comment on enmeshing with my wife.

I sthat part of marriage. Not total enmeshing but that bond, that connection that gives you comfort?

I understand that my enmeshment is not at the level of my W enmeshment (if there is any at all) and such enmeshment needs to be of a positive nature. I guess in a long winded way, how do I keep that positive enmeshment going or started again without the so called "smothering" effect?

ideas? comments?

F4W

Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.

Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!