Piecing for sure

[princess_nic]

Hi Xue,

So she wants a strong man but doesn't want to be overpowered by him. She admires strengtth but is threatened by it???

What she said actually makes perfect sense to me. I had this discussion w/ a man a few weeks ago, and he was laughing, saying how complicated women are. It's really hard to put into words but I'll try:

I have a strong personality and I want a man who will stand up to me. I don't want to be with someone who will be afraid and run away when I am being stubborn, selfish or just plain wrong. My H always did that, and I hated it. I want an equal. BUT I don't want to be with someone who expects ME to do what I don't want him to do: agree all the time. I want a man who will listen to me and respect my opinions, even if he doesn't agree. If I can't make a decision about something and I ask him about it, I want him to make the final decision, not just tell me to do what I want. But that's only if I ask!

It's a man's world, It's a man's world!!!

This can be very frustrating at times. It IS a man's world, and in certain fields it is REALLY hard for a woman to be taken seriously. It sucks! But it doesn't mean she hates men.

She loves to say I'm the alpha male and loves to be the wife of the alpha male, but hates being the wife of the alpha male

She doesn't want to feel pushed around, BUT she likes that you can push other people around. It makes her feel protected; she knows she can count on you to take care of her. She just doesn't want to be treated like an inferior. Does she know that in packs there's an alpha female too? The alphas are the couple, not an alpha male and a beta female. She might like to know that.

It's a fine balance, but it's really not complicated. I think most, if not all, women are the same in this regard. I think it has to do with feeling secure and safe. It's a scary world out there, and we have to be tough so much. It's nice to come home and be soft and taken care of (but respected).

Nicola