In thinking about these recent postings and what I have been butting my head against I think I may have stumbled upon the terribly obvious.
All this time we've been gridlocked with this idea that she thinks she must be single to be a strong indivual and to grow and be happy and successful.
The reality is that this idea is not saying she wants out of the marriage, it is only saying that she wants to be strong, happy, and successful. Someone just told her a lie that she has to be single to do it. But the reality is that she is already becoming it. Marriage has done that to her. These struggles have done that to her. She is very close to becoming what she had set out to become. One day soon she will wake up and realize it herself.
When things went bad we had a terrible life. Terrible stresses and we were in a terrible emotional state. That is in the past. Life is good now and getting better all the time.
So maybe if I helped a little by working out what strong and independent means. A little helping her DB. That ole how would it look stuff that is so awesome and powerful. I can do that.
So BJ had some great stuff on it.
What is strength? What is a strong individual? What do they look like.
1. Not drug down by their emotions. They do not react to the emotions and actions of others.
2.?
I fell in love with her because I percieved her as a strong woman. It would sure make sense for me to support her in becoming that.
