Yes, there have been lot's of little things I've noticed lately.
She called me up from Vegas and said "I'm going to win some money for US" with a whole lot of emphasis on the word us.
The word "I" was really strong in her vocabulary. I hated it the way she said it. "I'm going to be financially independent" etc. It was never "our business"
So last night she was talking and the I slipped back in, then she immediatly corrected herself and said "oh when I say I I mean we" and then got a little flustered with her explanation. So not totally there yet but obviously closer.
We've talked a lot about things in the past that were terrible but have become very strong life lessons. We talk a lot.
I found one of the Gottman books buried deep in her desk. I swear I wasn't snooping. I was happy about that.
A few days ago she was very negative about her own negativity and flying off the handle. Said she'd need a lot of therapy for it. Now she has accepted it as just something she needs to work on and doesn't feel guilty about it.
We do not try to prove each other wrong anymore.
And best of all. The "bad people" are after us again. (Damn that sounds paranoid) I was pretty upset about it. I told her when she got back from Vegas and she did not react. She didn't care much. The next day when I was still upset she said "your not upset about them, your upset because you were freaked out about what my reaction would be"
