Thanks so much and I'll need to read that over a few times.
Just wanted to say that today has been a productive day. W has brought up in a sarcastic tone several times about her need for "long term therapy" to help her with her strong angry reactions. We talked a little about things several times. Her reactions, my shutting down. This was the first time we have ever talked like this in a completely relaxed tone. This was different for us. No blaming, just talking about things in a manner where we were both looking for solutions and trying to help each other at it.
So what did I do? I brought her an article on changing habits which was a SBT approach. I explained to her about SBT (which I've tried a few times at but she just got defensive) I explained to her what it was and a little about SBT. I told her I wanted the article back because I liked it and reffered to it often.
Guess what? it went really well. She started making jokes about how dangerous it was for me to give her something like that. How she would normally go off at it. It was kinda funny and we both laughed.
This has been very good in the end. I guess it had to come to a head a bit to find a solution. The time was right.
