Ronnie you did great and I am very proud of you!!!!
Sounds like you had a real good first session with your SBT therapist. Hopefully you have found someone that is going to be a wonderful therapist for you. I was seeing our SBT therapist alone for 5 months before my H decided he wanted to stay in this marriage and we started joint therapy sessions. In some ways I prefer seeing the therapist alone because I am more comfortable about opening up and saying things I still can't say in front of my H.
You did great talking to your H quietly and without bring up relationship stuff. Its important that you be understanding of the stress he is under and be supportive. Never criticize. He will notice this new and different way you talk to him. It is going to take time for your DBing to work but if you can quit the begging and pleading you will see positive results. There is still hope in your situation so hang in there and keep working at it every day. I will be thinking of you.
Don't forget to go over to your thread on the MLC forum and give everyone an update. They are waiting to hear about your SBT session.
