Well I haven't got to the mall to get anything yet but I'm going to try to make it soon. Long drive but I'll find the time.
Yesterday we did a community event for kids. Had a great time and a great event. Very happy that it's our last big event of the season though, it's been a busy month. We sat and had beers together afterwards and fell asleep on the couch.
I wish I could DB perfectly, I don't think anyone can though.
I still notice the ups and downs however they are very slight.
It's funny, it's obvious she wouoldn't be without me. She wants to go everywhere I go and be with me all the time. This is about something else. I still think that her C convinced her that to be independent and strong she had to be single. We had a little bit of a conversation about this the other day in relation to my brother. My brother floats from r to r and just dumped a really nice girl. He's an idiot. But he was throwing out phrases like "losing myself in the R" losing his freedom and stuff. She asked me if I wanted him to be saved from his continual R patterns. I said yes but he never will until he buckles down and follows through with a relationship. It's the only path to strength independence and personal growth. This struck a cord in her and she strongly disagreed. I elaborated slightly but shut the conversation down pretty quickly. Didn't want to argue the point because I could see she'd get very defensive quickly. But it gave me a strong clue that is the issue. At this point I think it may be the only major issue. Hmmm, how to solve it?
Quote: focus on you and you will feel even better about you and she will feel great around you
This is so true. And it works. I'm doing more and more of it. I think it is causing a conflict in her. She wants to be around me but she's been told she needs to be alone to develop. I'm happy because I know the emotional side always wins.
