Wesse I am trying to figure out what LB is. I probably should know but don't. Humm its not backslide or last resort so please tell me what it means. It so happened that the opportunity to talk to my H about this came up when I got home from work last night before I read your reply. He took it very well. I explained to him that I had been thinking about what he and therapist had asked in our last meeting about what it would take for me to put the past behind me and trust him again. I told him I wanted to be able to forget about what happened too. I told him it is time that we put together a will. Everyone should have one and we are both getting older every day. He agreed. So I explained to him what I wanted to do and he said that at one time that would have made him angry but if it would make me feel better its ok with him. I also told him that it only matters if I die and that my hope is that we will both live to be 100 and go in our sleep snuggled up to each other and smiling. He liked that idea but said that us both living to 100 most likely isn't going to happen. Now weather or not I will go through with it I don't know. Just knowing he was willing to do that for me helps some.
Ronmom I am proud of you and your hard work. You are doing so much better. Please try to focus on your daughters weddings and how joyous this time should be for them. Share in their joy and let them see you smiling and happy for them. It will do your H good to see you smiling and happy for the daughters. This is another way of you showing him that you have changed and don't always have to have things your way to be happy. I know you have been all over these boards because I have been watching and you are getting lots of good advice and learning so much. Remember the receipe over on the MLC board. (see I know) Stay positive by keeping your PMA and focusing on the good things happening around you. GG is right on with her advice, detach and stop the pursuit.
Well H and I have the next three days together. I am excited about that. We are going to listen to Micheles first two tapes in Keeping Love Alive today and join in the new discussion group that starts I think later today on the tapes.
Wesse thanks for your help. Will be looking forward to hearing from you again.
GG I know you are still out there and haven't left on your trip yet. Please know I will be thinking of you and your H while you are gone and I will do my best to kick Ronmom in the pants whenever she needs it. You have been doing an excellent job for her just as you did for me. GG on the subject of fearing the OW will end up with your assets, I understand. My H is agreeable to what I want to do. And in all fairness the funds I am setting aside for our daughter would never have been there if it wasn't for my parents leaving me a little nest egg. Mom asked me hold the nest egg as seperate property so I am trying to honor her request and at the same time provide for those I love. H admits our lives are so much better now that we are not burried in debt. It has been so much fun to buy things for our home and for our kids and grandson. I have been generous and now I need to know that after 30 years of working hard and struggling to get to this point someone like the Slug isn't going to end up with it all. Thanks for understanding. Besides that when H first told me he was committed to the Slug and wanted out he said money wasn't important to him and he couldn't be bought. What a laugh I don't want him if I have to buy him. I don't want to ever wonder if he stayed with me because of money.
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