JW: Thanks for your kind words. I appreciate them and hope that you are correct.
I completely understand your feelings about not wanting Ow to get her hands on your assets, I was the same way. When h and ow were fooling around I was very angry that she was going to get my h, my best friend, my mechanic and half of our assets (community property state.) Ow's a total golddigger and for some reason must have gotten it into her head (I wonder if he put that idea there?) that h has a lot of money. He doesn't. I was the big breadwinner in the family. I never minded sharing. He also dressed real nicely, (I have good taste) but ow makes a lot more than h does. And of course, h drove a Range Rover (which I bought for him). But, it wasn't new, we got a real good deal on it. So I guess she thought she was going to get her hands on some $$$. And she would have, too, but not his. After the settlement, the well would run dry, and she probably would have dumped him.
Anyway, all that can sure cause a lot of anger and wear & tear on the trust.
I think losing the assets was the final insult. However, I have to agree with Wesse, that you should really rethink that move and come up with something less restrictive. That probably isn't the best way to show him you trust him. There are other ways to show trust while protecting yourself. I know Wesse will come up with a better idea. Good luck, JW!
All: Please keep giving Ronmom a kick in the pants every now and then for me, while I'm gone....Repeat after me....detach, let go, stop the pursuit. Repeat refrain....
