GG I hope your get away does you and your H a world of good. Yes we have to get to the point where we can trust them no matter if we are with them or away. I still think your H is home to stay and I bet he is going to miss you like crazy. Might be just what he needs. Know that I am thinking of you while you are gone and keeping all of you in my prayers. You have been a wonderful source of inspiration and support for me. Know that you have done everything possible for the right reasons to save your marriage and no matter what the future holds you are going to be OK.
Wesse it was good to hear from you and I hope everything is going very well for you. How long has it been since you reconciled and does your H act like nothing ever happened?
Orson I already had found you on your new thread. Thanks for stopping by and I will be over at your thread regularly to lend you support. My H has not been back to the doctor but will see his internist again soon and have his colersterol level checked to see how the meds are working. My H also quit his part-time jobs and is a house husband these days and I love it. He does have an application in for a civil service position that would put him working in the building next to the one I work in. We are looking forward to this as a new beginning. For the first time in 30 years we will be working the same hours and will have evenings and weekends for ourselves. We have really learned to appreciate our time together.
Jenny I am thinking of you too and wishing you well. Hope things are still going in a positive direction for you.
Ronmom hope you are reading, reading, reading, and backing off your H. Let him come to you. Follow the DB book and come here to vent and find support. We are here for you.
Now for me and my current situation. H is doing all he can to show me he really loves me and is happy to be at home. Last night we talked a little in bed. Seems pillow talk is where we can open up to each other the best. He is now at the point where he is confused as how he could have had an ema and says he wished it never had happened. He also wants to continue our therapy and spend lots of time together. Sounds good to me.
H and the therapist are wondering what it is going to take for me to build trust again so I have been thinking about that issue. I think I have figured it out and I am not sure how H is going to take it. I am going to bounce it off you folks first. In order for me not to worry about him and trust him again I think I need to protect myself financialy in a legal way. What I am thinking is that I want him to sign papers drawn up by a lawyer that state if anything happens to me the money in my deferred compensation account and my seperate assets from my inheritance from my family will go to our daughter. You see the biggest nightmare I am having is something happening to me and H spending my money I have worked all my life for on the Slug or some other woman. What do you think?
[This message has been edited by Johnswife (edited 01-13-2000).]
