Wow Chris, I just reread some posts here. Its hit me that we are stuck in similar ways not exact same. before counseling it was just me stuck after counseling it seems we both became stuck there. because my H has become aware of how he was hurting me with his pressure etc. And it does seem to still drive me away and hurt me when he talks of his needs. There just seems to be more then I can handle. well you know the story. anyhow I have been taking a complete break from my relationship or working on it in anyway.
since H has been home for almost 2 weeks with his knee problem. things have seemed more comfortable but thats because he is here keeping an eye on me and knows I am not doing anything wrong. its not perfect we still have disagreements but I noticed they dont create as much tension that lingers. It got me wondering if perhaps we have a chance by going back to MC. I seem to get to this point where I start to relax in away then bam I feel I get blind sided from irationalness. I guess its just some events with another relationship that I have watched from the outside where I can see their problems and where they can fix them with some comunication skills. they see it as unfixable and over but for me I can see so much so clearly having been in the same place with my H and being able to work through it through counseling. their problems are mild compared to ours but their biggest comunication problem is the one my H and I were able to fix in counseling so it got me wondering if maybe I should give MC another chance. I am not going to bring it up I am going to just let things be longer and continue where I am at. I just want to make sure I havent developed a sort of tunnel vision from my reading and studying at DR Irenes site. I am not ready to start a thread on this thought so I am crashing yours for one post on it.
