I think H primarily said this in order to hurt my feelings. It was a heat of the moment kind of thing and I think he was just taking a potshot. __________________________________________________________
He said, "You don't want to be intimate with me you want to have sex with me." Sometimes people say things like this when what they really mean is "I" not "You." IT's easier to put it off on the other person but from his desire to often avoid foreplay and have a quickie, it seems like HE is really the one avoiding the intimacy. ________________________________________________________
Mojo,
I have no idea what he would say to that. I recall you using that phrase before and I thought it was rather accurate. Your hamburger analogy is also accurate. When H wants things to be like that it is like looking at the lyrics of the song with no music. There is just no "juice". It isn't that I am being picky about ONLY having romantic sex with lots of foreplay etc...but going from 0 to five minute get on/get off sex as a rule just doesn't do it for me. I am considering how we can talk about this issue. Actually, I kind of already brought it up with some humor...I asked him if I could pre-order sex the next time with a side order of romance. He said, that if I wanted sex on Monday (we didn't ) that it would be the extra value meal because he would still be tired from the triathlon.
