Thank you all for the nice things you have wrote. My situation is this: About four months ago my W told me that she was not in love with me anymore. This was stated on our 15th wedding aniversery and came right out of the blue. I had no idea what to think, where to go or what to do. She continued to tell me to move out of the home away from our two beautiful children and that she wanted to be on her own. We seperated and I was totally lost. Couldn't work, couldn't eat, couldn't do much of anything. I floated around for a while and tried to deal with it. I moved out for a while and that made it very tough. One day I was surfing the web and came across this site. THIS SITE HAS SAVED MY PEACE OF MIND, MY ATTITUDE TOWARDS PEOPLE AND MOST IMPORTANTLY MY MARRIAGE (HOPEFULLY). I say hopefully because I believe that I still have a lot of work to do. If I think for a minute that I have succeeded and things are good again then I will backslide and go right back to square one. I moved back home about three weeks ago and started by sleeping in my sons room (he has a bunk bed and we treated it like I was spending the night every night and having slumber parties with him. It was really a cool thing cause he and I have gotten closer from this). For the past weeks that I have lived back home, I showed my wife respect and patience. Never getting physical or emotional with her. That is what I feel is key to this whole thing. We must seperate ourselves from out spouces physically as well as emotionally. When I did this, we started to become friends. We started going out on dates, cooking dinner together, exercising together (running) and just enjoying time together again with each other. Things are good now. I am sleeping in my own bed at her request and seeing someone in her that I haven't seen for a while.
Sorry about going on like this but you asked!! Anyway, the things I have learned are due to THIS SITE. Michele has given me advice but the super people like yourselves have made this more of an enjoyable experience that it probably should have been. I realize that I am fortunate for the way things have been going but we need to remember one thing: If we don't take care of ourselves and our loved ones, we can't be of any use to anyone else in terms of a relationship. Please remember that as this is what has made the difference to me. If we get happy with ourselves then it's only a matter of time until our H's or W's see that and want that as well.
I pray for each of you everyday and am confident that wonderful things will come of this. Please hang in there and keep talking as you have.
