Brilliant post, K... that's pretty much where I am, too.
Quote: When we have exchanges that are less than loving it isn't coming from the core of who we are but rather from the external layers of shells of ego.
Those layers are the Identity System in Block's terminology. The techniques he gives about stopping, looking, and listening (background sounds, touch, etc. to reconnect with the body in the present) can help forstall that slide into isolation.