Right now I am actually feeling a little creepy about my sexuality. My H, in his fragile state is not someone I feel free to lust after. Not to point out the obvious, but sexuality does not have to mean lust exactly. Ironically, a lot of men share a weird self-defeating trait in that when they feel “fragile”, they actually want more physical attention. Though, the self-defeating part is that confidence and such are lower resulting in less initiation and a drive towards isolation. Maybe try out physical and intimate things that focus a little more on EC and nurturing? What would your H do if he walked into your bedroom to see you had lit candles, you grabbed his hand, laid him down, and maybe gave him a massage?
I said that I am willing to accept my shortcomings and share of the blame and that I am committed to trying to make things better. Then I asked for two specific things: When he comes home I asked him to make a special effort to hug DS14 and tell him that he loves him and to try to look at me and "us" through new eyes. If my W said that to me I think I would be in utter shock.
"office shark" has picked up on my feelings of despair and keeps referencing how "lucky" my husband is to have a "wife who is smart, beautiful and sexy.” Ick. Ick. Ick. From your boss!!!!!!! OMG…. Did you respond that you can’t wait to see how small his manhood shrivels when he is sitting across the courtroom full of people judging his sexually harassing behavior?
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
