Guess I should clarify. When I said "training" I meant the kind of training that he does for a living - he is corporate trainer.
As far as the outbursts are concerned I would say about 2-3x/year.
Ordinarily, he is very supportive when I am ill, when I was pregnant last time etc... For some reason this time was too much.
As far as having a child is concerned. We will see. We are opting out of another IUI cycle next month and he doesn't want sex so frankly I'm not terribly worried about my chances of getting pregnant.
Goodguy,
Yes - it seems a lot of us share similar stories. I think many of the LD spouses have problems with depression. In men it just tends to manifest differently. Anger, yelling, acting out like my H did is standard operating procedure for depressed men.
I answered an email from my H and made a suggestion about taking St. Johns Wort (anyone know dosage for this?). He said he saw my point (wellbutrin might be a better choice really).
I also addressed the question of the lingering effects of the whole ordeal. H is going with the "act like it never happened plan." Here is an excerpt:
When I asked you last night if we were ok, that was a sincere question.Are you still feeling upset, unsettled about things between us? Perhaps we should try to talk things out more? What do you think?
I think I am still tired. I am trying to work through things, patiently. I am not mad. The confusion that exists is my own exhaustion / depression / pain. I love you. ___________________________________________________________
I just don't know what to say. That is where things stand. We are communicating better and I hope that will lead to some actual solutions.
