Karen1, you are my new hero. At the moment, you are the only “adult” in your family. That must be a really overwhelming and lonely feeling. I really admire your strength and ability to hold it together under such conditions.
My only thought is that it really sounds like your H it out of control here. Messing with a person’s caffeine fix is grounds to be drawn and quartered. Seriously though, I would think it reasonable to demand that he seek mental help. Acting out physically like that is screaming for attention. It sounds to me he is just weak and wants you to force the issue.
Quote: coffee pot and blender and replaced them in the kitchen without a word
I understand and respect why you went this way. Though, it is probably important to enforce consequences too though. If you let him get away with acting out like that, then he might just keep it up.
Quote: Maybe it is time I just say - OK.
I am very sad to hear that you feel so defeated. You sound like such a loving W and a great mother, I sincerely hope that your H grows up and recognizes what he has before him soon. You deserve better than what he is offering right now.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
Seriously though, I would think it reasonable to demand that he seek mental help. Acting out physically like that is screaming for attention. It sounds to me he is just weak and wants you to force the issue.
