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I will get laid periodically when all the planets align for my H. What I won't get is regular sex or spur of the moment sex. He won't suddenly come do me in the bathroom or my clothes closet or in his basement office. He won't make a lewd compliment when we are dressed for a party. He won't give me an open mouthed kiss at the end of a workday, feel me up and promise something more later. He only seems to "want" me when it is convenient for him. Never mind what my desires might be.




You know, someone ought to start a club for just that sort of thing Matter of fact, you voiced my EXACT SAME grievances (or shall we say griefances?) I have in my own relationship ... so I'm going to print it out for future MC reference.

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I am in a resentful mode and I realize that I do have it somewhat better than others. However, I often wonder if we will soon move from the current lack of frequency (once or twice/month) to an even worse frequency. I have no reason to believe that it won't happen that way.




Unfortunately, I don't have any words of cheer for you there as far as my own marriage goes. Matter of fact, the frequency has been dwindling from once every 2 weeks to the once a month "wifely duty" pity f-k during the 9 months we've been in MC. And matter of fact, I seem to be overdue on the once a month'er. Sigh.

I'm also in resentful mode, and I feel it growing. As much as the acting "as if" has a LOT of value generally speaking, when it comes to using it to deal with feeling like you're becoming more distant due to the lack of passion and intimacy, it's only a band-aid that falls off the scab far too quickly in terms of feeling wanted and needed -- which is something everyone DESERVES.

Christ, looks like I picked the wrong week to stop sniffing glue

Sabu

It's better to need someone because you love them than it is to love someone because you need them.