I didn't intend to sidestep your questions on the baby issue. I am so angry, dissappointed etc... that I barely noticed that question. I would like another baby and time is not on our side. I don't think a baby will hurt the situation NOR would a baby help. I don't want a baby as much as H does - I have three, he has one. I feel that this is a non-issue in our lives for the most part. I think all of children could be gone from our home, moved out, leading happy lives and H would still avoid sex and avoid the topic too. The parenting part of our lives is probably the most intimate and satisfying thing going on for us most days.
Again...I'm not planning on divorcing and I'm pretty confident that H isn't either. Therefore, I have a lifetime to work on this topic OR learn to live with it as it is. I'm really not too excited about either plan at the moment.
Perhaps I really need to just hear what H is saying and act accordingly. H: "Hey, how about we schedule a date on Friday night?" Me: "Gee I'd love to but I scheduled a special confession with Fr. Gene and church comes before intimacy." H, lightly rubbing my thigh..... "Thanks H, I'm really tired that thigh rubbing is just the thing to put me right to sleep."
