Karen, I don't understand your H's plan. Is it: Get as much sleep and get 'caught up' and then re-focus on the sex life? Or what?
Let me ask you this: Do *you* want another baby as much as him? I'm wondering why you would want to voluntarily bring another being into the world that will cause even more stress and mandatory distance between you two?
I think a logical approach may work with your H. Make a schedule and stick with it. Let him know that you are doing this because you can clearly see that he needs to reduce the stress in his life and reducing the amount of sex will only cause his stress to go up--even if you never say a word, Karen. He is putting internal stress on himself because he wants to please you.
I think his plan is setting you both up for failure and I would be angling pretty hard for a different one.
