Defining the problem

[MJontheMend]

Maybe you shouldn't concentrate on the things that he can, maybe, justifiably find more important than sex such as kids or religion. Maybe you should point to all the things he spends time on that should definitely be less important than sex. For instance, you could say "How about on any given weekend you make it a priority to have sex with me before you spend time watching Star Trek reruns.". My sich is so much like yours it makes me want to cry for both of us. In fact, probably one of the main reasons why I don't worry anymore about whether "my looks" is the reason for my H's LD is that I know that truly gorgeous women like you and HP have the same problem. In my sich, even though at present time I have about a 60% chance of getting laid any weekend which is a vast improvement over the past, I know I will never get laid until my H goes through a whole series of other tasks that he considers more important or has to get out of the way in order to relax enough to have sex. For instance, I can be pretty certain that I won't get laid until my H has vacuumed the bedroom. Pretty soon I'm going to develop a Pavlovian response to the sound of suction.