Michele,I just wanted to thank you for your wonderful response and for the excellent advice.I re-read your post often,especially when I feel a bit discourage at what seems to be the slow pace of the healing of my relationship w my H.
It helps for me to remember how very far I have come in the past year in preventing what seemed to be an inevitable D.
DBing has worked very well for me and it always will.There is no end to this DBing,just a fine tuning of the techniques and an internalizing of the method.Thanks again for a life saving strategy.
To all my old friends, Things continue to improve and My H seems more and more likely to stay with me and our children.It was a close call and if I don't watch it,it could happen again.
A good relationship takes a lot of hard work,especially in my case,since I have had to do it by myself.My H refused therapy and counseling.I am living proof that one can make positive changes in a marriage by woking on things solo.
I am more realistic these days and so grateful that my marriage seems to be surviving a tremendously crisis filled period.I appreciate my H more than ever and realize how I may have taken him for granted in the past. Just a few thoughts on this cold winter's night.....Jenny
