Chris, Thanks for sharing. I'm hoping my H will realize the same - how important the friendship is. However, in anger I once said to him that if we did D - we could not be friends. I do feel this way, but I wish now I hadn't said that...
Although I didn't assist my H in moving to another state and 'setting up' - in a round about way I kind of did. I organizaed all the finances to make it an easy break once he established his own place and since he was moving somewhere cold, I bought him some warm shirts. Don't know if this counts. I also told him that I understood his need to go - which at the time seemed to matter to him. I remember him saying "Even though you are the one being hurt the most by all this, you understand the most why I have to do it." I appreciated that comment, but silently thought that I really don't understand.
Haven't spoke to him in 2 weeks now - longest time we've ever gone. I detatched when he moved and have stopped the pursuit. I am giving him what he asked for - time and space alone. I hope it makes the difference.
Thanks again for sharing your story- Paris
P.S. I won't post any more on this thread. Don't want to bring down the joyful tone of reconciliation. But if you are interested... my home is over on the MLC board.
[This message has been edited by Paris (edited 01-06-2000).]
