Hi Jane, yes he is a CO at a prison. and it is an extremely high stress job. He is a gunman and he is in charge of keeping the floor officers alive while watching 200 level 4 inmates. I know it gets to him especially with all the BS going on in the California prisons right now. Administration is doing their best to look good to the public by not letting the officers do their jobs. Its gotten to the point that officers are going to be killed, and are being injured continuosly. with stupid things some officers were discoverd doing at other prisons suddenly everyone is paying for it. recently an officer got written up for picking up the mini14 and putting the yard down when some inmates ran into the saliport and jumped an officer. The situation was brought under control, that officer got written up! its rediculous they expect you to just not even pick up your weapons no matter what. officers have been getting hurt left and right and they know there are inmate hits out on officers but admin sits in their offices not knowing anything of how to run a program and tells the officers they cant do anything or they can lose their jobs etc. they are out to fire anyone they can. My H works in a place where not only the inmates, but the people you work for, are out to get you and he hates it.
I talked to him about getting a hold of the congressman, senator, director and Governor to do something about this. He said many grievances have been filed but no one is doing anything. I told him lets try again going straight to the Governor and if we still get no results lets take it to the media. they really are not allowed to go to the media though....
okay so anyways.. yes I was thinking the same thing. he and I talked about it recently about how he can get out of that job. the thing is, he makes good money and he really couldnt go anywhere else and get the same pay with his education. with over time he is able to make in the upper 80's a year. I have been wanting to go back to work and find something that could suport us while he went back to school and trained for something diferent. for now we are stuck.
then I was wondering well am I just looking for more excuses? I mean, I thought things would be fine once he quit drinking. that really didnt end our problems, because his problems were the reason for the drinking. Many of his problems are what cause us trouble, his insecurity, jealousy, mistrust and suspiciousness, and his anger problem... he dosnt really know how to manage it very well and he dwells on things forever and lets nothing go ever! ugh! so will a change of job make a diference? I dont know, it seems like whenever he trys to make himself happy it turns out to not work there is always something. I change everything he complains about (except get rid of my computer) and he just finds something else to complain about.
right now I am planning to learn Excell, PowerPoint, Word and Access, so I can get a job soon. I have management experience in retail but that really dosnt pay well enough to suport a family of 5. so hopefully I can get something in computers that would pay enough. I didnt finish my degree but I was an econ major.
I do think it would make him easier to live with. he has had this job 9 years. previous to that, he worked 5 years as armed patrolman for security company. he was still a pain in the derierre LOL... but I think maybe we have grown some since then and definitly a change in job would really help. But he has friends in the same job, and various facets of law enforcement and they dont seem to be as stressed as he is. so it makes me wonder.
thanks so much Jane for your 2 cents
I hope you are happy and well this New Years. take care Sue
