I have to agree with you here. I get that Heatherg had the A, but after 2 years there should be some kind of progress in making the M compatable for everyone.
Heather, do you feel so guilty that you are allowing him to continue to treat you this way? I can just see you 10 yrs down the road still feeling guilty and him still treating you like he does now. If he is not willing to work with you on the M, why is he still around? To make you suffer? That could just go on forever.