Am I Creating a SSM Part III

[Burgbud]

Does that change anyone's opinion that I did the right thing by offering to pick H up from the airport, but refusing to switch vehicles?

Quit asking that! You don't need anybody to hold on your hand any more. Sometimes I think you seek permission to do what H wants instead of doing the right thing.

Heather, do you make OM a part of your life in any way? Do you go to any of his gigs? Do you call him on the phone? Do you email him? Do you talk to him? Do you see him? Do you even *want* to do any of those things?

Because if not, H the only one keeping OM in your life. Why does he want OM to remain in your life two years later? Why is OM the last man who kissed you? That's not what *you* want; it's what H wants.


H already told the kids that we were picking him up from the airport. Do I tell the kids we aren't picking Daddy up, that he's just going to meet us at home? Or do I go, drive my truck and take my kids to pick up their Daddy and let H decide in the moment what he will do? This approach is what I want to do, I WANT to take my kids to pick up their Dad, I want to see H at the airport as well. But I fear that I will be escalating the situation and making it volatile....if he chooses a cab, the kids will be confused as to why we are driving away without Daddy, etc. So, although I would like to go to the airport and make H fully accountable for his own decision as to how to get home, I feel like that would be putting the kids in a bad spot.

Did he tell the kids you were picking him up before his conversation with you about the vehicles? If so, he's point blank manipulating you with the children.

If not, well, they're little kids. They don't need to have the adult issues explained to them. Just tell them it didn't work out to go pick Daddy up. End of story.