Thanks for the quick responses you guys, I appreciate it. I feel anxious because I went with my gut, I said no where I felt no was appropriate, but it was hard. Especially trailing our R conversation the other night where he told me again that he was 'looking for something' from me. My guess is that refusing to switch vehicles is *not* what he is looking for from me. I worry that I'm bringing these changes about too quickly....I remember what Cobra said about re-enmeshing and then changing slowly. In the end, I guess I can only do what feels right to me. And it doesn't feel right to me to have to switch from one vehicle to another...it feels humiliating.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
