I think you filled a whole thread while I was not around, but I found you.
All of us have some bit of narcissism (and paranoia, passive-agggressiveness, and everything else) in us. All of these things are on a continuum. H has a drinking problem, that seems clear, but it can do your efforts more harm than good if you try to label him. At the very least, please be careful that you label only his behavior, not himself. There's a real danger in thinking of people according to the label(s) that we give them. My T told me once that labels are for insurance companies.
Happy Mother's Day!
Joe
My sitch More importantly, Light A Million Candles
