Great stuff Fran. You're absolutely right! Coming to terms with is not the same as healing. Healing requires a journey back through and that's pretty scary. Have you done this, or had to do this while in a R? Just curious... the thing that is helping me heal is to allow myself to experience the pain I feel and allow myself to explore, even embrace the feelings, fears and tears. I find myself crying at the oddest moments, but I also feel the fear and anxiety within me lifting as I process the thoughts and feelings and understand them. I wasn't able to do this while still living with my XH. So, I'm wondering if distance and time alone are important to the process if you don't live with a supportive S. I'm also learning to comfort and accept myself and not running to the next R to try to feel loved and happy like I have in the past.
Please overlook the hi-jack (again). This discussion is really helping me focus
