Sue, you know it's impossible for me to keep up with all the details in everyone's life on this board. IF I did, I'd be out of work and divorced myself! Although I know a lot about you, I must admit that I didn't know how much sex your husband wants each day. I would have to agree with your therapist's assessment of the situation in that case. And, since you explained how you were feeling in more detail, I really can understand your reaction when he wanted sex that morning.
So what to do. I like your new strategy. YOu need to put your energy into you children, people who love you and into getting yourself involved outside your home. I think that will be your salvation. I think you will be able to see yourself and your marriage more clearly when you are in contact with others. I know the people on this board help you a lot and that is wonderful, but they aren't a substitution for real live friends and/or co-workers and enjoyable activities that you are depriving yourself of right now. Yes, you have responsibilities at home and I'm not suggesting you neglect your children, by any means, but you need to replenish yourself. Stop trying to convince your husband you are a good person (I know this is old news). YOu are a good person. Go take better care of yourself. If he loves you, he will want you to be happy too.
If you're worried about being away from the kids, do some activities with other adults who have children. Just GET OUT OF YOUR ROUTINE!
Happy birthday again. Hope you are happy today. Michele
