this is not meant as a criticism, but you DO spend an ENORMOUS amount of time online! I decided to follow just one day of your posting...and you are online virtually ALL DAY! It is no wonder you don't get much accomplished around the house.
I understand the temptation and the lure of the computer, but I cannot believe that you can't exercise more discipline. Exactly HOW gigantic IS YOUR house that you cannot catch up?
I had an over 10,000 Sq. ft. house, and two sons, one who was severely retarded and handicapped. He needed virtually 24/7 care, and I did it all myself. And, my house was always in order, in fact, it was on house tours! I also sit on several boards, and have run many fundraising campaigns for my community. YOU just DO it!
They say that the state of your home and purse reflect your inner-state, this is what you need to work on. Once you come to terms with that, the rest will fall into place.
And, I know lots of people, with FAR more challenging situations, than having been blessed with 3 healthy, active children, to be lucky enough to take care of, who somehow manage to accomplish everything that they need to do.
And, the solution, to your H not being able to reach you during the day, when you are online, is to invest in having another phone line installed. Whatever the cost, it is worth it, because the cost, is outweighed, by the benefit in the reduction of tension that will exist in your life.
You have to start CHOOSING to take charge of the priorities in your life. You spend alot of time on this board, making excuses, and explaining your positions. Your time would be better spent, on honoring your family responsibilities first. You shouldn't be online until your housework etc. is done.
You have to decide to change yourself, and not keep blaming others and your situation. You cannot change anyone or anything else. But, once you start taking action, things will improve. Talking online, while a pleasant diversion, is not going to solve anything. You need to balance your time more effieciently.
Less talk, and more action, is all that is called for here.
