Jane of course you are right. It was not really a lack of enthusiasm you picked up on but that I was exhausted and still recovering from major oral surgery of just a week ago. My guests went home yesterday at about 6pm and H and I had a good evening together. We were both glad to have our quiet time together back. Its feels wonderful that H and I are both enjoying these quiet times just being together and enjoying being nice to each other. It is a great beginning to what I know will be a wonderful future to look forward too where both of our dreams can come true.

I realized yesterday that I need to practice more patience where H is concerned as far as him learning to open up to me. Years ago I used to brag to friends that my H was my best friend and he was. I want to again feel like I can talk to him about anything and I want him to feel the same openess with me. This will take some time but I feel we are healing at a fast rate and we will get there. I am grateful for what we have now.

GG I hope things are going well for you. I keep hoping that all of us DBers will find some times of great joy together with our families during these holidays. I know when Christmas comes I will be thinking of you together with your H and your children and wishing you the very best. It just doesn't get much better than that does it.

Guess what? My H is showing enthusiasm for this Christmas. Many years in the past we haven't been able to get each other something nice for Christmas. Well we are splurging a little this year and he is showing a keen interest for the first time ever in what I would like for Christmas. He is going to take our daughter shopping with him this week to help him out. (so I have been slipping suggestions to her).

I remember just a few months ago when I read on here about someone's H doing everything they could to please the wife after having an affair. At that time I could only dream of maybe being in that spot someday. Also at that time I was DBing my butt off and waiting on H hand and foot. Gosh this sure feels good to have him trying to please me and I am going to enjoy it. That might have sounded a little selfish but I am not a selfish person just a wife that has always needed more attention from my H and after 30 years it feels good to have him showing me he loves me in his words and actions.

Michele this Divorce Busting is good stuff. Maybe you should write a book. Laugh out Loud folks.