Hi there Sven - Sorry to hear about your friend going through this same stuff we have all struggled through.
Hey, you sound great though. In many ways, having a 'joint problem' like selling the house, can be a unifying thing. Something you share. Hope the buyers bite soon tho.
I'm slowly processing my own views on all this - in many ways, I'm trying to come to terms with a 'new perspective' on NG - I guess with that little bit of detachment I can see his limitations too, and can see how some of my hurt stemmed from attributing him with more strength than he would actually own up to.