I want to tell you that I think that what you're doing is great. I do have some small criticism to level at you, based on your last post. Forgive me if I've gotten it wrong. I detect a lack of enthusiasm on your part regarding your talk with your H. If my ex said those things to me, I'd be jumping up and down and cheering. He agrees to let you know when the OW tries to contact him? This is excellent - how many straying spouses agree to this? And his comment about how he shouldn't have done what he did, and how it was a mistake. That sounds to me like it IS an apology! What more should he say? Apologizing is very hard, and the worse the thing is that you've done, the harder it is to apologize.
I guess I'm saying you should count your blessings at this point, and don't let your disappointment that things haven't progressed further take over. You need to reward your H for coming this far. Give him lots of positive feedback.
That's how your post struck me - I could have read it wrong.
