Been a good couple of weeks since last post. Things continue to move along at a good pace - not too fast or two slow.
Weekend recap:
Our weekend (other than slaving on the house) was good. We went on a date Saturday night – dinner and a movie. We saw The Illusionist. VERY GOOD movie I thought – and a good date movie. Sort of a “chick flick” but a pretty good story and enough twists to keep our martian brains awake. As we went to bed that night, she says, “I’m almost there” – indicating she is almost at or near “full” reconciliation. Fell asleep “spooning”. She had a really bad dream that woke her up (and me) CRYING. I just held her and consoled. We sat and had coffee Sunday AM and she told me that it was about her dad and was very sad (her dad died in 2000). Amazing the effect of active listening and loooooking into her eyes. She gets up after we have talked, sits on my lap (tight embrace) and tells me that she loves me. Finally, at lunch, she says “okay…get this…right now I want to have s+x…” Of course, I say lets go… She says we cannot (the three kids around) so I tell her that in the new house I’m putting a lock on our door and we WILL be taking advantage of these whims.. end of story. She grins….
Good stuff I think…
She did mention last week while we were talking about "taking on too much" - specifically we were talking about a volunteering thing that I do with Scouts. In the heat of it she mentions that she "doesn't trust me". I tell her firmly that I have NO intentions of repeating the last year and that I have it under control. Period, end of discussion. She backs off.
So, continues with more good than bad....and the pace feels about right - at least I am less frustrated by it...
Patience. Onward and upward.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.